Encouraging things people are saying...

From Washington State

I am grateful for many Bible truths you have taught. But I am particularly thankful that you show the way to a happy intimate life. Christians have got to learn how to live and enjoy life. We have.

From a California pastor

You are the apostle of sex to our Christian marriages (just kidding). Wow. We honestly did not know what we were missing. You CAN teach an old dog new tricks. Thank you so much.

From North Carolina

I was helped and want to share what my wife and I are learning from your book with our congregation.

From Kentucky, a pastor writes about When Two Become One:

I opened the package and started reading the table of contents and was so excited to see that a man of God has written such a helpful book. I am anxious to read it and share with my people.

From California:

I wanted to complement you on the book (When Risqué Is Okay). I was seeking for a way to terminate my marriage because I was unhappy with some things that were going on in my home. A pastor's wife loaned me that book and it has totally changed my life and our home. So instead of terminating my 20 year marriage, we have really changed. I know you probably receive a lot of flack on your book but I just want you to know that I appreciate it very much and just want to say thank you. Great job. Thank you very, very much. Bless you.

From South America:

My husband and I have just started reading your book. We are enjoying the book and it has really helped our marriage. We are missionaries in...South America...We would love to have the book in Spanish. Many marriages in South America are in trouble. If the couples are not saved most men have a mistress, but once they become Christians the ladies seem to be very hush hush about intimate issues, and very scared...If you do have the book in Spanish...please let us know so that we can order it.

From the mid-west:

Thank you so much for the book. We have been reading it together. We really didn’t have any real issues in this department, but it has already made a difference and we’re not even through. You obviously have great wisdom in this area and have the intestinal fortitude to deliver the message in a very tactful manner. GREAT JOB!

From the mid-west:

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
FABULOUS BOOK! Such a blessing! Am so excited to "share the wealth".

From a Pastor in Arkansas:

You've just become at the very top of my favorite author list. Praise God for the book. I was on a missions trip in Trinidad, of all places, whenever I saw a copy of it. I want to order some of these in bulk for the couples of our church. I thank God for you and your wife to allow the Holy Spirit to do something I never thought I would live to see the day when a Baptist preacher would have the anointing of God and such holy boldness to deal with issues like you did. I want you to know it was a tremendous breath of fresh air. My wife and I deeply appreciate it. The families of our church will appreciate it too. I look forward to the possibility of meeting you some day.

From China:

Thank you for your faithfulness. I know you have your own share of battles. A few months ago, I googled your name to find out if your church had a website. Near the top of the list was a [site omitted] video. I clicked on it hoping to see you preaching. Instead, I was treated to an idiot preacher blasting you over your book. After watching it, I pressed the comment button to throw in my own two cents. Because the amount of words is limited per comment, I commented three times before I was done. I simply relayed that I am an eyewitness of you, your family, and your ministry. I wrote that your family was the best family I had ever seen (I still think that)...
 
Interested in any possible response, I checked back a few days later. The [person] had deleted my comments! The comments of his friends were still there. The impression left was that everyone agreed with him. That's when I realized that there were probably many others like me who have benefited from your ministry whose comments defending you had likewise been deleted.
 
Anyway, it gave me interest to revisit When Risque is Okay, and I was helped once again in my marriage. Thanks again!

From Oklahoma:

...This is a subject that really needs to get before the church. I work in Reformers Unanimous at our church and we have couples in our program because of sexual problems. We also have a lot of couples in church with the same struggles who are too proud to come to RU. I hope your book has a part in a spiritual awakening towards sexuality.

Let me tell you how I found out about your book. I got an email from a church member that had some quotes from Jack Schaap. The quotes came from [url omitted]. I never believe anything without proof, so I checked his website. On the website I saw your name. I had never heard of you before, so I followed the links. Through that process I found that you were associated with Paul Chappell (a good friend of my pastor...), Eric Capaci, David Gibbs (friend of my pastor...), and John Bishop (most Godly man I know). So, I went to your website and checked it out, then ordered the book. I then sent an email back to my friend, showing him your associations and warning him to be careful who he heeds to on the internet. But, without that article, I may not have ever known about your book. (However, God is sovereign)

I appreciate you stepping out into a potential minefield with your book. Satan will do what he can to buffet you. Keep standing. I hope my story is an encouragement to you. I will be praying for you.

From a missionary couple:

We recently purchased a couple more of your books to give out to some friends–your ministry is helping people all over the world and we praise God for that!

From a Colorado pastor:

We have just completed our second family vacation. Thank you for encouraging us to do the things we always knew we should but weren't making happen.

From a Michigan Pastor's wife:

My husband loves that book. I'll bet he has given a case away.

From a Maryland pastor:

When you showed it to us in the Bible I accepted it and our marriage has been greatly helped.

From a Tennessee wife:

I had never heard you speak or heard of your book until this week. Thank you for teaching about such a delicate issue so truthfully but graciously.

From an East coast wife:

This book is the best kept secret in Baptist churches. My friend just gave me a copy. I read the whole book in two days. My husband and I loved it. Thank you for being so straight-forward.

From a west coast pastor:

I got the book and my wife and I read it. We have been doing what you said. Those truths have changed my marriage forever. And in changing my marriage, they have changed my life.

From a western business owner:

The only unhappy thing in our marriage is our bedroom life. I have been praying for an answer for seven years. I couldn't believe it when I opened the book and looked inside. I didn't know something like this existed. Thank you so much.

From a husband in the Northwest:

I got the book thinking about how much my wife needed help on this subject. By the time I finished reading it, I believe her lack of attention to my needs is reflective of my lack of attention to hers. We've been drifting a part for some time. We have both felt rejected, angry, and depleted. I have decided to fill her heart up again, like before we got married, and live the abundance principle you explained. I don't know how long it will take to retrain my own responses or refill her heart but I am no quitter and she is worth it.

From a wife in Illinois:

I just wanted to say your book has changed our marriage for the so much better! I appreciate your mix of humor and honesty to help me receive your message.

From a personal friend:

I saw the love and excitement that you and Karen have kept in your marriage for many years. I want that too. I'm beginning to understand how to go about it. Thanks for spelling it out in the book. I laughed all the way through.

From a wife in Nevada:

Ever since I read your book my husband tells me I send him to heaven. Thank you.

From a husband in Oregon:

It made me blush and a few things made me mad. But mostly it made me a better husband and lover. I can't believe you said some of that but thank you for doing so. I needed to hear it.

From a pastor in Texas:

I read the book. Now, I am so excited about the potential for this book helping the families in our church that I am giving one to every married couple as a gift. God bless you for having the courage to say it straight. It is bold and direct, and that is what we need today.

From a pastor's wife:

"Hearts for Home" printed out "Heats for Home" on my web form. After reading the book, I think the typo was right. I am sweating just thinking about it.

From a pastor in Texas:

Send me another case and some audio sets also.

From a Christian Bookstore owner in Illinois:

People have been asking for this book. How do I get it?

From a pastor in California:

I bought the book to mine the information as a resource for my marital counseling but found new excitement for my own marriage also.

From a pastor's wife in Louisiana:

This should be required reading for every young wife and many older ones.

From a pastor's wife in Florida:

We are going to take the risk and put this book on our Ladies Conference table because we believe Christian women need this information so badly and will be helped by it.

From a pastor in New York:

I just recently have read through your book.  What an outstanding resource!  Not only is the subject material very Biblical, it is side-splitting humorous!  Thank you for writing this book. I plan to give this book to our couples at our upcoming couple's retreat.

From the Midwest:

We have a very good marriage. But it has just gotten better since reading your book.

From Indiana:

As I have gotten older, my interest has not decreased but my performance has required more patience. In fact, sometimes I don't even want to try because I am afraid of failure. Your book has influenced my wife to such a patient, helpful, and frequent spirit that I look forward to every opportunity to fool around with her.

A West Coast Wife:

I have noticed an anger problem in my husband most of our marriage and always wondered why. He loves the Lord and me. Once I began implementing the principles in your book, it was amazing. His under-current of anger vanished and has never returned. Then I felt guilty. I believe I have had a part in his anger for many years and just didn't understand. Delighting him now delights me, as does having a husband who is happier, more playful, and more even-tempered.

From Texas:

When I first heard of a micro-date my first thought was, "Great, here is one man giving another man (my husband) justification for spending even less time with me." But I was wrong. I love micro-dates and have never felt more pampered. In fact, several of them have turned into astro-dates.

From Colorado:

I thought we already had a great marriage and an exciting bedroom. But it just keeps getting better, especially after your book.

A pastor in the Midwest:

We have had severe marital problems...We are not completely right but we are so much better. [My wife] has been trying to understand and meet my sexual needs. I have begun to work very hard at meeting her emotional and romantic needs. We both still have a long way to go. But now we know what to do. Thank you and please pray for us.

A husband in the Carolinas:

It took us 40 years of marriage to figure out what you wrote in a few pages. How I wish we could go back and relive our youth once again with that knowledge under our belt.

A wife on the West Coast:

We have been married for [many] years and I have never had pleasure in the bedroom myself a single time. It wasn't my husband's fault. He tried hard enough. But I was raised in a home where sex was always spoken of as dirty and evil, when it was spoken of at all. Since reading your book and allowing my heart to open to God's plan of sexual excitement with my husband, I have enjoyed pleasure like never before...and that has lit my husband up too. For me, it wasn't physical but mental dysfunction that needed correction. Thank you very, very much.

Honey Trap writes:

When my husband started working long hours in November and December, our lives got put on hold and out of order.

I felt it best to "let my husband sleep" since he was working long hours. Little did I know, this was not the thing to do as he felt I was pushing him away, and not understanding what he did wrong. He was being preyed upon, and then I felt neglected, so I went searching too. We fell into the Honey Trap. Things got stopped on both our parts before they got out of control, and any real damage was done.

We got into counseling with our Pastor, and with new eyes I got into my bible, and started re-reading your book. I have even been reading it aloud to [my husband]. We have taken some time to stop and talk about what we are reading to make sure that is the way we personally feel in certain situations.

Along with God's Word, your book has been the biggest help to put our marriage on the right track, probably for the first time ever. I wish I would have known that all my thoughts, and all his actions were perfectly o.k. behind the bedroom door.

An Iowa pastor writes:

I want to commend you for being blunt and appropriate at the same time. I think you were wise in saturating it with humor, making us more comfortable with the subject. It is an excellent book.

A mid-west wife writes:

I laughed outright at so many things...I bristled with excuses as to why I don't meet my husband's needs in some areas...It wasn't just informative but convicting too!

A California pastor writes:

Our church will be selling this fabulous resource to our people in just a few weeks when I begin teaching a series on the home...thank you for your time and effort in producing a quality book on a sensitive subject.

A missionary to China communicates:

This book has already had a tremendous impact upon our marriage...Nothing has offended me but several things have made me blush.

A missionary to the Philippines writes:

We are thankful for your introduction and the explanation as to why the subject of sex needs to be discussed among Christians. We knew it was important, but after reading your thoughts, we now believe it is crucial...This book is awesome. Your humor keeps us rolling on the road (we have been reading it out loud as we drive). You are so funny!!!

A pastor in Indiana writes:

Thank you for being frank, humorous, honest, and candid and for putting into print what has needed to be said for a long time. This is the kind of book that has been waiting to come on the scene, and I am so pleased that you are the one who did it.

An associate pastor in Texas writes:

I have heard nothing but positive responses to the book. We have thoroughly enjoyed the read and I found nothing that should be offensive to any sincere and honest marriage that has any fire to it at all.

A California wife writes:

Thank you so much for writing this wonderful book!  I am devouring it. I am applying what I have learned already, and find that it's tough sometimes, but things are getting better.  You really do have that abundance Vs. depletion thing dead on. You both are brave souls for putting this book out.  I'm sure many marriages will be saved, and countless marriages renewed with much pleasure.  Ours has been.

Texas parents with married children write:

We bought your book for all our married children. This information is greatly needed by Christians. We are in the process of reading it together ourselves. Our daughter called us to say she stayed up all night and finished it in one sitting.

An associate pastor in California writes:

You're humorous, direct, insightful, and you're saying things that people know in their heart should be said, but few have the guts to say them.

A fallen, former-pastor writes:

I received the beautiful book yesterday. Your illustrations are hilarious and keep me glued to the book. I must warn you that you will be ridiculed and criticized because you are dealing with a subject unacceptable in most Baptist circles. But you are right and they will be wrong. The book is desperately needed and pastors need the book to guide them as they breach this subject in their churches and even in their own home. I wish I could have had it when I was [much younger]. Things would have been quite different for me.

Another Texas wife writes:

I just wanted to say thank you for your book. We both have learned so much. I only wish that we had had something like this when we were married eight years ago. Well, to say the least, this has already transformed our marriage and will continue to over the years. Now you just need to write a book about the home and child rearing!

A youth and family speaker writes:

PUBLISH! PUBLISH! PUBLISH! ...This book is truly PROFOUND. It will have a MAJOR impact on as many marriages as we can get it into!!!!!!!

A California pastor writes:

There is such a tremendous need for this book. I'm tired of only having books from liberals…and always having to give the disclaimer that goes along with it when we gave it to a couple that was to be married. Now I have something that, not only a Fundamental Baptist wrote, but a great and helpful book also. I have already placed an order for myself and for our bookstore. I will get one for EVERY couple that is getting married or that comes in for marriage counseling. There will be many orders in the future. I will also share it with preacher friends. Thank you for all the hard work and hours spent into this wonderful book.

A Christian school principal writes:

I am excited to see this project completed.  I believe it is needed, and I am glad God chose you to write it.

Other e-mail encouragements:

1. •Most will ravage through this material like starving refugees and their lives will NEVER be the same!
   

1. •Now how in the world am I supposed to get any work done today after reading that?  You know where I want to be.
   

1. •Your material will provoke both spouses to more fully give themselves to satisfying the other...and your words encourage total self-abandonment, which is obviously the key to a healthy relationship.  [We] both wish someone had shared some of these thoughts with us early in our marriage, or even prior to that.  Problem is, even though both of us come from healthy homes, we doubt our parents experience this kind of freedom with each other...which would in turn make it difficult and even impossible for them to pass along these instructions and values.  At the very least, they never felt comfortable giving us any instruction.  We have spent [many] years learning these lessons, and some of them so recently that we regret we didn't have this information earlier.
   

1. •It just takes the lid of off some things that need to be brought out in a transforming way in every marriage.
   

1. •The affect of this material to a marriage is almost like taking chains and strongholds off of a slave. You bring a godly and biblical kind of freedom to light like a breath of fresh air and a gigantic sigh of relief. And you give permission for husband and wife to fully render to each other what God intends. You validate what scripture teaches but what some people "wonder" about and are afraid to discuss–often even with each other.
   

1. •Your material about preparing your husband for a trip was incredible!  How many marriages will that save?  How many eyes will it open?  How many affairs will it prevent?
   

1. •This material will help husbands stay faithful to their wives, marriages stay together, kids grow up with healthy homes, generations affected and impacted... This is HUGE!
   

1. •You're killing me with laughter!!!! The people on this plane are starting to wonder why I'm laughing so hard out loud!